BDSM: Slaves and Limits…Is There Such a Thing?

This post was prompted by a post on Fetlife asking about slaves and limits – not doing things just because the D-type gets enjoyment from it, but because things have a purpose. Slavery isn’t about limits or doing things just because. Slavery for me is about surrendering to the will Continue Reading

Does One Who Submits Risk Losing ‘Self’?

I had an interesting conversation with a friend this week that has really been on my mind the last couple of days. Her question was basically how can you submit without losing who you are, losing yourself? How, indeed. When I first made the decision to specifically seek what is commonly called Continue Reading