Is ‘Bedroom-Only’ Power Exchange Possible?

DEAR ERICA, I need some advice before I talk about this with my boyfriend. I’ve been wanting something more out of our sex life. I have always been secretly turned on by the idea of being sexually controlled and restrained. The thing is, I only want to try dom/sub sex. Continue Reading

Saying No…A Lesson in Personal Power and Submission

I am writing this from a male dominant/female submissive perspective because that is my world view. However, I believe that it applies to any combination of dominant and submissive. I am not intentionally excluding anyone, just using specific pronouns for ease of writing. When I first became aware of the Continue Reading

BDSM Basics: Rights and Responsibilities of a Submissive

When I first discovered the online world of BDSM, I read everything I could get my hands on. Everything. There is a lot of information out there. Some of it is pretty good. Some of it is built on realism. But a lot of it is built on fantasy, much Continue Reading

Does One Who Submits Risk Losing ‘Self’?

I had an interesting conversation with a friend this week that has really been on my mind the last couple of days. Her question was basically how can you submit without losing who you are, losing yourself? How, indeed. When I first made the decision to specifically seek what is commonly called Continue Reading

Will ‘Fifty Shades Of Grey’ Spur More People To Try BDSM? If So, It Needs To Be Taken With A Grain Of Salt

By Anthony Rivas | From medicaldaily.com | On September 3rd, 2014 “Three years after its steamy debut (it hit the masses like a train; everyone had a copy), erotic romance novel Fifty Shades of Grey is ready to appear on the big screen. The series, which includes Fifty Shades Darker Continue Reading