Tag Archives: relationship

Love, Sex and Sexual Identity Confusion

DEAR ERICA, So, I’ve been with my man for the past 5 years. During that time, I’ve been dealing with my own sexual identity crisis. I love women and men, but I know of a lot of other people don’t...

What is a slave? Is it me?

Originally published on 13 November, 2013. For many years when I was first exploring life as a submissive, I was always quick to tell people, “I’m submissive but not a slave.” In fact, that was my tagline online for a...

Navigating Marriage & The Pink Fog

DEAR ERICA, I am a common law spouse of a male crossdresser. No one in the world would think this of my spouse as he is very much a domineering man during his normal wear, and has plenty of manly...

What Does My Slave Identity Look Like?

I find myself over the last few weeks turning inward to examine who I am as a woman and as a slave. My life has taken many twists and turns over the last year, and each new fork or twist...

Is ‘Bedroom-Only’ Power Exchange Possible?

DEAR ERICA, I need some advice before I talk about this with my boyfriend. I’ve been wanting something more out of our sex life. I have always been secretly turned on by the idea of being sexually controlled and restrained....

BDSM: Slaves and Limits…Is There Such a Thing?

This post was prompted by a post on Fetlife asking about slaves and limits – not doing things just because the D-type gets enjoyment from it, but because things have a purpose. Slavery isn’t about limits or doing things just...

Video: What’s Your Sexual Footprint? Al Vernacchio at TEDxYouth – San Diego, 2013

“Let’s talk about sex! And let’s talk about our sexual footprint – the path that is created by the decisions we make and the actions we take regarding our sexual selves. Al Vernacchio, gives an honest, powerful, and important talk...

Saying No…A Lesson in Personal Power and Submission

I am writing this from a male dominant/female submissive perspective because that is my world view. However, I believe that it applies to any combination of dominant and submissive. I am not intentionally excluding anyone, just using specific pronouns for...

So, What’s the Deal With Polyamory?

A monogamous but open minded, journalistic look at the relationship type (it’s not a psychology) This is a cross-post from my new website Curiosity Crossroads. I like to have discussions — about real topics and issues. I like to get past stereotypes,...

Polyamory 101: It’s About More Than Just Couples

I found this must-read article this morning and felt the need to share it with you, our readers. Enjoy! By Angi Becker Stevens | HuffingtonPost.com | On 12/03/2013 Over the past few years, polyamory has become a more widely known...