Tag Archives: power exchange

What Does My Slave Identity Look Like?

I find myself over the last few weeks turning inward to examine who I am as a woman and as a slave. My life has taken many twists and turns over the last year, and each new fork or twist...

Definitions in BDSM . . . An Exercise in Frustration

There has been an ongoing debate on Fetlife about whether one can be a slave if one is unowned. That has led me to thinking. I wonder why it is that in what is is that we do (WIITWD) we...

BDSM Basics: Rights and Responsibilities of a Submissive

When I first discovered the online world of BDSM, I read everything I could get my hands on. Everything. There is a lot of information out there. Some of it is pretty good. Some of it is built on realism....

Does One Who Submits Risk Losing ‘Self’?

I had an interesting conversation with a friend this week that has really been on my mind the last couple of days. Her question was basically how can you submit without losing who you are, losing yourself? How, indeed. When I first...