Tag Archives: bdsm

A Naked Notion ‘BDSM 101’ Video Comes Under Fire In Social Media

A Naked Notion Youtube video series featuring Laci Green has been prepared with the support of Planned Parenthood and is intended to spur a discussion between young people and the adults in their lives regarding varying types of relationships and...

NCSF February Membership Drive

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is fighting for your rights. Please support us by joining today! For the month of February, as Fifty Shades of Grey sweeps the nation, NCSF is holding a membership drive in honor of the...

What is a slave? Is it me?

Originally published on 13 November, 2013. For many years when I was first exploring life as a submissive, I was always quick to tell people, “I’m submissive but not a slave.” In fact, that was my tagline online for a...

Southwest Leather Conference Announces New Dates for 2015 – Phoenix, AZ

Southwest Leather Conference traditionally has been held on the fourth weekend of January every year, but that will change for the year 2015. It has been scheduled next year for January 15th through the 18th. Regarding the change, the Southwest...

Heart of a Slave

I always enjoy seeing discussions of the romanticized things in our scene, most of which are associated with M/s in some way – the ‘gift’ of submission, ‘slave heart’, a master must master himself, etc.. In the past, I would...

What Does My Slave Identity Look Like?

I find myself over the last few weeks turning inward to examine who I am as a woman and as a slave. My life has taken many twists and turns over the last year, and each new fork or twist...

Sex, S&M, and the Newly Single Girl

Disclaimer: this writing is me thinking out loud. It’s not about fishing for compliments, it’s about processing some stuff. While it’s always nice to get those compliments, I’m much more interested in helpful suggestions/advice, and thoughts from people who experience...

Is ‘Bedroom-Only’ Power Exchange Possible?

DEAR ERICA, I need some advice before I talk about this with my boyfriend. I’ve been wanting something more out of our sex life. I have always been secretly turned on by the idea of being sexually controlled and restrained....

BDSM: Slaves and Limits…Is There Such a Thing?

This post was prompted by a post on Fetlife asking about slaves and limits – not doing things just because the D-type gets enjoyment from it, but because things have a purpose. Slavery isn’t about limits or doing things just...

Saying No…A Lesson in Personal Power and Submission

I am writing this from a male dominant/female submissive perspective because that is my world view. However, I believe that it applies to any combination of dominant and submissive. I am not intentionally excluding anyone, just using specific pronouns for...

Definitions in BDSM . . . An Exercise in Frustration

There has been an ongoing debate on Fetlife about whether one can be a slave if one is unowned. That has led me to thinking. I wonder why it is that in what is is that we do (WIITWD) we...

The Munch: Lunch, Kinky Style

Munches: Expectation vs Reality By ‘Dark_Lohena’ 1. Expectation: it’s clique-y Reality: People will look at you, but more times than not, they will welcome you. You just have to take the time to get to know people. 2. Expectation: Munches...

What is Due Diligence?

Originally published on November 9th, 2013 | SubmissiveCircle.com You will see me use the phrase ‘due diligence’ a lot in my writing. It is something I believe in very strongly. And something that most people don’t do, which always just...

BDSM Basics: Rights and Responsibilities of a Submissive

When I first discovered the online world of BDSM, I read everything I could get my hands on. Everything. There is a lot of information out there. Some of it is pretty good. Some of it is built on realism....