Sex, S&M, and the Newly Single Girl

Disclaimer: this writing is me thinking out loud. It’s not about fishing for compliments, it’s about processing some stuff. While it’s always nice to get those compliments, I’m much more interested in helpful suggestions/advice, and thoughts from people who experience this stuff in a similar way. I had an interesting Continue Reading

BDSM: Slaves and Limits…Is There Such a Thing?

This post was prompted by a post on Fetlife asking about slaves and limits – not doing things just because the D-type gets enjoyment from it, but because things have a purpose. Slavery isn’t about limits or doing things just because. Slavery for me is about surrendering to the will Continue Reading

Saying No…A Lesson in Personal Power and Submission

I am writing this from a male dominant/female submissive perspective because that is my world view. However, I believe that it applies to any combination of dominant and submissive. I am not intentionally excluding anyone, just using specific pronouns for ease of writing. When I first became aware of the Continue Reading

What is Due Diligence?

Originally published on November 9th, 2013 | SubmissiveCircle.com You will see me use the phrase ‘due diligence’ a lot in my writing. It is something I believe in very strongly. And something that most people don’t do, which always just amazes me. In both the online world and in real Continue Reading

BDSM Basics: Rights and Responsibilities of a Submissive

When I first discovered the online world of BDSM, I read everything I could get my hands on. Everything. There is a lot of information out there. Some of it is pretty good. Some of it is built on realism. But a lot of it is built on fantasy, much Continue Reading

Does One Who Submits Risk Losing ‘Self’?

I had an interesting conversation with a friend this week that has really been on my mind the last couple of days. Her question was basically how can you submit without losing who you are, losing yourself? How, indeed. When I first made the decision to specifically seek what is commonly called Continue Reading